Abuse in Family of Origin or Placement
Unfortunately, abuse happens in every family
dynamic. While many would prefer to believe that abuse happens during kidnappings and abductions--which it does--it also happens within the confines of the family home. A lot of the time, this abuse can go undetected and unnoticed. Close friends or family members may never believe that their loved ones are abusive toward their children, and so they ignore the warning signs and the red flags. However, this abuse continues until it's either discovered and stopped or until the child cannot handle any more abuse and passes away. It shouldn't ever reach this point, but it does--all too often.
Abuse can occur within a biologically-related family and even a family that has adopted children. Abuse is prevalent in every home environment. As members of society and the human race, it is our responsibility to put a stop to this abuse. That may mean noticing the warning signs and acting on it in order to protect the child. It may mean ruined familial relationships, but it could also mean that you've saved a child's life. And that really is the most important part.
Another way you can combat abuse is to make your own children aware of the warning signs. They may be able to help their friends at school who may be regularly abused. It will also protect your children from abuse, as they will know how to identify those who want to hurt and manipulate them. If we can raise a generation of strong, independent, knowledgeable children, we may be able to lessen the existence of long-term abuse within families. We will probably never be able to rid the world of it, but we can save many children's lives and teach them how to properly treat and respect others as they age and mature.
Many abusive situation go unreported. The frightening part of that is how many are reported, and to think of that only be a small portion of current abuse. There are some abuse cases that are known worldwide because of the horrific nature of events. If you would like to read more about some of the most horrifying abuse by family members in history, you can click on the type of abuse on the left navigation bar. While these stories can be graphic and disturbing in nature, it may give you the motivation you need to reach out to those children you think might be abused
If you are aware of a children who is in an abusive home, contact your local authorities for help. They can arrange for Child Protective Services to make a home visit and check on the child's health, family situation, and surroundings. Don't try to take matters into your own hands. Reporting it to the police will leave a paper trail in case something comes up later, and police are trained for handling such situations.
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