Graham was adopted by his aunt and uncle when he was five, after his birth parents died. His sister was adopted by their grandmother. The family were well-to-do dairy farmers near Johannesburg, and had two born-to children. His adoptive father died when he was eight. His relationship with his mother was never very satisfactory, and his reunion with his birth sister did not result in a lasting relationship.
After school he went into the retail trade, selling musical instruments and then clothing, but he is now a fashionable body-piercer in Johannesburg.